Although every abusive situation is different, batterers share many of the same characteristics.  The Missouri Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence (MCADSV) lists 15 common traits among abusers:

  1. Intimidation and violence
  2. Verbally abusive
  3. Minimizes abuse
  4. Substance abuse
  5. Breaks or strikes things in anger
  6. History of violence
  7. Projects blame
  8. Cruelty to animals or children
  9. Extreme jealousy
  10. Controlling behavior
  11. Isolation
  12. Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde
  13. Rape or use of force in sex
  14. Spiritual and religious abuse
  15. Use of privilege