BETTER SAFE THAN SORRY
Domestic violence is intentional behavior that often becomes more dangerous over time. An abuser uses tactics to gain control over their partner and may change those tactics as needed to maintain power and compliance.
Survivors are strong and resourceful. Many women find ways to reduce risk, protect themselves, and safeguard their children. The following safety tips are meant to support awareness and planning. Every situation is different—use what applies to you.
During a Violent Episode
If violence occurs, consider taking steps to reduce the risk of serious injury when possible:
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Avoid bathrooms, kitchens, garages, areas near weapons, and rooms without an outside exit
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Move toward areas with access to an exit when you can
If You Remain in the Relationship
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Ask a trusted friend, family member, or neighbor to call police if they hear concerning noises
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If you are no longer living together, request that your landlord change the locks
Planning to Leave an Abusive Relationship
If you are able, try to gather important items ahead of time. Take what you can safely manage:
Important Documents
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Photo identification
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Birth certificates (adult and children)
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Social Security cards
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School and vaccination records
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Driver’s license and car registration
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Insurance documents
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Medicare / Medicaid cards
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Passports
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Divorce papers
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Lease, rental agreement, or house deed
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Car or mortgage payment records
Essentials
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Money, checkbook, ATM cards, and credit cards
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Medications
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House, car, office, and spare keys
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Clothing and personal items
For Children
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Favorite toys, comfort items, or security blankets
Personal Items
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Sentimental items and photographs, if possible
Safety Tips for Daily Life
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Teach children how to dial 9-1-1 in an emergency
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Ask for calls and visitors to be screened at work
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Avoid traveling alone when possible and identify safe public places
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Call police if an Order of Protection is violated
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Avoid using computers or devices your partner can access
Help Is Available
If you are experiencing domestic violence or need support creating a safety plan, confidential help is available.
📞 Harbor House Domestic Violence Hotline
1-877-507-7233
You are not alone. Help, support, and safety are available.
